Much like the 3rd question for the reason that this 1 directly brings up potential wounds through the past week. By asking this in a various context, your spouse extends to start thinking about if they thought your arguments felt complete.
It’s likely you have a gut-level opposition to asking this 1 (â€œBut then get mad at me again!â€) but working through this uncomfortable moment together will make it so that the unspoken, underlying tension is allowed to dissipate if i ask thisâ€¦ wonâ€™t they remember that they were mad and.
Did you ever hear the phrase â€œSaying no hurts for the minute, but saying yes hurts for monthsâ€? It fundamentally states that after we have been assertive and direct with this desires, it could be uncomfortable. But when we donâ€™t, the trade down is the low-lying anxiety that individuals feel by maybe not being real to ourselves.
This concern works much into the same manner.